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ArborGate Associates, Inc. is committed to providing quality counseling services to our clients. Together, as healing partners in God’s Grace we can afford clients the opportunity to experience healing and transformation to live effective, balanced lives. Working closely with schools, churches, and business organizations, we provide assessment and counseling services for individuals, couples, families, and groups.
By Jill Oatey, L.I.S.W., L.P.C.
In my 20 years of counseling experience, I have begun to see much more anxiety and stress with women in the last five years than in the previous fifteen years. As a marriage counselor I see how this greatly affects the marital relationship, job performance, motherhood, and a woman’s peace and happiness.
What is the difference between anxiety and stress? A stressor is a situation, person, or event that adds tension to your life because it takes time, energy, or thinking to deal with it. Anxiety or depression are the consequences, or how you might respond to those stressors.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is one of the more popular therapies used in the mental health field today. Therapists help clients identify their irrational thoughts so that they can replace those with healthier, more rational ones. Unfortunately this therapy is not always successful and scientists have discovered a possible reason why. Researchers have noticed that the heart sends messages to the brain between every heartbeat.
lay Therapy is a psychotherapeutic treatment approach specifically developed to help children between the ages of 3 to 12 years old. A play therapist, a trained mental health professional, works with a child to explore and resolve problems through the therapeutic use of play. The child and therapist work together in a playroom that is equipped with specially chosen toys that will encourage the safe expression of feelings and also support the development of healthier behaviors.
What is self-harming? Self-harming is anything you do to hurt yourself. Self-harming can be done by cutting yourself, by burning yourself, or by hitting yourself. Self-harming can be a way of coping with problems. Those who self-harm tend to experience difficulty expressing the emotions surrounding conflict. Many self-harmers report that cutting provides a relief. It helps to express the feelings one can’t voice. It is a way to release emotional pain and a distraction from overwhelming emotions. Cutters report that cutting makes you feel alive, or simply feel something instead of feeling numb.
A traumatic event is usually defined as any type of event that causes an individual to react with intense fear or shock. The event can be life changing and can cause lasting psychological, physical, and emotional harm. Events that qualify as being traumatic in nature include the following: